Live in State- 0 or 1 , but not in between.

It is very easy to drive on a straight road . You drive smoothly and accelerate whenever you require. But you apply brakes at turns and sometimes you have to even stop.

Imagine that you are driving a car. Now you have to take a turn - left or right. Both the directions have a huge traffic , it is difficult to come back to other if you start driving on one. Alas!!! You are confused where to go.You are not certain in which direction you should turn. And other vehicles are honking on you because you are not moving. You have come to a halt.

In real life there are conditions which are analogous to the one above I mentioned. And you might have faced some situation when you are in dilemma , a position where you are confused where to go , a state of quandary when you are uncertain what to do , or a state when you have two conditions just opposite to each other and you have to decide where to go. This state of conundrum can eat your time and head like anything. But if you reach to a conclusion quickly , then - it will save your time and prevent any headache ,confusion or dilemma.

Let me delineate few cases -

First Case- Take Risks

State 0 is easily attainable . But you don't like it . And you are somewhat pressurized to choose it

State 1  is highly uncertain - you are not sure whether you will be able to achieve it or not - but if achieved then it is most favorable

What to do????

Choose State 1- I have reasons-

1. The paramount reason is - YOU DON'T LIKE STATE- 0. If you don't like it , you cannot survive in that   state.You will be in trouble if you live in that state.   
2. If you do not try State 1 , you will always regret . And after some time living in State -0  this will creep into your mind  , " If only I had tried State -1 then ..."
3. Also in a worst case , if anyhow you fail utterly to attain State - 1 or you don't find anything according to State-1 , then you can reach to State- 0 .Though you might find it difficult to come back to State 0 . You might have to face diatribe but you are safe .This option is of negligible probability but I am just hedging your risk.. ;)

 

Second Case- Doubt means NO

State - 0 - seems interesting to you. You have never experienced this state but some experienced say that it is good.

State -1- You have experienced it little to test. You have not find anything interesting. And you are forced to choose this state.

And once you have decided then you cannot change .That is final.

What to do????

Choose State - 0 -because 

1. The paramount reason - You have not liked State -1 . And you have tried to check it. You have not developed any interest during that span of time.You have got an indication - you are not sure - and if you are not sure , then it means - BIG NO.
2. Though there is some risk while trying State -1 , but it seemed alluring to you -which means you will develop interest in it. Though it is still uncertain - but the State - 0 is already a no ,so try next.
3. And this idea will never creep into your mind - " If only I had tried State -1"

Third Case- Take a jump

State -0 - You are currently in this state. But you are loosing interest in this field or there is something fallacious here.You have no surety here.

State -1 - You are not in this state. You can jump to this state. You have surety here.

It is very very difficult to jump from State -0 to State-1.It will be an onerous journey.But this is a last time if you want to jump or not. If you will not take jump this time then you cannot jump afterwards. 

What to do???

Choose State - 1 because

You have lost interest in State -0. You have reached a doubt and whenever there is a doubt - it is a Big NO.It is good that you have realized some doubt in the way.

It will not bring any regret on your face - " If only I had jumped at that time"

And assimilate these -

• Always choose Quality over Quantity.
• Always choose what your heart says over money.
• Always choose what you have dreamed of over what you have not dreamed of.
• Always choose what you like over what others like.
• Always choose an option where you think you are free , you are relaxed over an option where you are not free or not relaxed or not comfortable.
• Always choose an option which brings a smile on your face over an option which brings no smile on your face.

• Always shun an option which brings a confusion or leaves a sign of a question mark on your face.A sign of confusion in some existing state - means A BIG NO. Leave it. 
• Always shun an option where you have sensed some untruthfulness or deceitfulness. This is a sign of some great disaster. Leave it as soon as possible.
• Always shun an option where you are not yourself or there is something which curtails you or your freedom.

          PS -  Giving a second chance to the above three is just worthless.

• Sometimes it is required to play intellectually by checking the signs rather than going by sentiments or emotions.

• Do not leave an option because it will take you out of your comfort zone or requires hard work. 

Make your decisions quickly.Try to reach either of states fast.A state in between 0 or 1 is always nocuous. Try to follow what seems right to you at the current point of time(present). You do not know about future ; make your present pleasant. Life is too short to waste time and head in exploring the same old options and standing at the same point. By that time you can do something else and find something NEW  and become HAPPY. Try to grab happiness rather than headaches.... :)

Do you check the mirror??

Once glancing into the mirror, a question came to my mind- how would be the world without mirror?- Everyone else could have seen others except themselves. And why do we check mirror?- To check our outer appearance, to check our outer self. BUT...

Do we have a mirror to check our inner self? How can we check our behavior or attitude which we throw on others? How can we get to know the change is positive or negative? Are we relatively becoming better or worst? And should we really care about this or just the outer appearance is enough?

Most of the people might say- ' I don't care'. But if you say this then why are you worried about your outer appearance. Why do you look into mirror to correct your outer looks. Majority of us would say- it boosts the self-confidence, adds to  personality, adds to smartness. And for some it is merely to impress someone they don't know-and look good to others- [others can be anyone traveling on the same road]. Will Smith has very well said, "Too many people spend money they have not earned, to buy things they do not want, to impress people they do not like". Yes this is the truth!!

If you also stand in this queue then take a break and ask yourself WHY ?

Coming back to my previous question- Where is the mirror to our inner self? How can we a better person tomorrow than we are today? The questions seem to be little abstruse but answers are pretty simple. Live a life with your own written principles. Do good to others and for sure you will get something better. I am not saying break yourself, or kill yourself to do that but if possible, do something which can bring smiles on other's face. This will bring you internal happiness,  which is priceless :) :)  This will also clear trash accumulated in your mind (Garbage Collector  :P). And if you can't do this, then atleast do not do bad to others.

Your inner self always pings you if you commit something undesirable inadvertently or warns you if you think to commit something undesirable. Listen to that ping and be true to yourself- that is the real mirror!! DO CHECK THAT.

Thanks.

Life is nothing but a continuous race !!

This is my first post on this blog. The idea came into my mind suddenly and I thought why not to give it a try. An old cliche you might have heard during your school days , specifically in 12th standard – “study this time and then you are done for the rest of your life”. But I tell you , you are never done . Every hard effort you make , the next step is still hard and the other next step is still harder.
Everyone of us has at least once in their lifetime might have thought of something magical , mysterious , adventurous to happen in life. Ironically we search for something outside of us , which we already have , we own , we live. The life which we live is indeed magical , mysterious and adventurous. We don’t know what will happen next , what tomorrow has set for us or what might we do the next day depending upon the situations. The conditions surrounding us may prompt us to do something unexpected , we have never thought of. It could be anything – literally any damn thing . The odyssey of life is a cascade of dares , the one who is capable to face these dares is the one who has really lived it.  Escaping or eloping is a pure sign of cowardice.
It is a continuous race , you have to run , and run and still run . Of course , you will be paid off but in due course of time . The more you run , the stronger you become. It is a never ending race . You have to run alone on your track , you have to compete no  one but yourself , you have to beat the  records but your own . You have to challenge no one but yourself. There will be many lucrative things or offers  which will tend to slow down your speed , but it all depends how you take it or what is on your mind.
There will be many hurdles all along the journey . A new blocker will be taken over easily as compared to the one which you have already experienced .You will meet new people , know more about the ones you already know , know more stories and again know a never ending  “more and new” . The crux is that every new second will bring something new and add something more . Neither you nor I can run away from it.
A worn out statement – ” There are 2 kinds of people ” . Indeed , a big Yes. But I want to differentiate it according to my criteria .The ones who are boring  – who keep picking the old challenges , who want to answer the known questions , who want to jump from a known height or who are always delighted to achieve something which is achievable. The second ones which I define are dynamic – they are the ones who try some different route so as to face new challenges , they want to answer to the new or the questions raised by themselves , they want to jump from some unknown height or they are always amused to work on something which is never achieved yet. For the second ones , everything is theirs. There is nothing which is burrowed or copied.
Answer depends on you , because the life is yours , the experience you gain is yours, the happiness is yours and the race is also yours. Whatever lies to your side , just keep on running!! RUN < RUN < RUN
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